When You Feel Like You Don’t Belong

I want you to close your eyes and imagine you’re standing in a botanical garden. Everywhere you look is a different type of bloom — roses, orchids, tulips, and peonies. The green foliage is lush, abundant and even though each is its own stem, your eyes can’t tell where one plant begins and the other ends. The fragrance is a mix of sweetness, moisture, and soil. Standing there you feel overwhelmed by the magnificence of its beauty.

Now, I want you to imagine that the garden is life and you’re a bloom in the garden. I want you to think of this garden any time a limiting belief pops up into your head. Any time you hear, you’re not enough or there’s not enough room for you to have and be what you desire. Think of this garden any time you have a creative idea, but you shut it down because “someone’s already doing it” and they’re doing it better than you. If you ever think to yourself, I could never do that, but inside you desperately wish you could, I want you to picture yourself in this garden and remember these four principles I’m about to share with you.


No one has ever walked into a garden and said, “There are way too many flowers here. We can’t allow another bloom to grow.” No! Never! What do people do? They stand there, mouth gaping, speechless at the wonders before their eyes. Could there be anything more magnificent? This same thing applies to the garden of life. There’s room for you. You belong here. You’re allowed to grow and flourish in life. And the bigger you bloom, the more beautiful you make the garden. 


When you compare yourself to another person, and you’re intimidated by them or you feel less than them, it’s like a rose believing it’s not beautiful because it doesn’t look like the violet. Each is perfect in their own way. The beauty of the rose doesn’t take away from the violet’s unique qualities. One doesn’t not dictate or affect the other. First, focus on accepting your beauty, life, and journey. Love who you are and who you’re growing into. Then, when you see someone else doing the same thing, you’ll be able to appreciate their unique beauty, without believing yours is inferior.


If one flower is in full bloom, it doesn’t mean the bud next to it will never bloom or that it’s not as good as the other flower. It means they’re on different timelines, and that’s exactly how it’s supposed to be. You can’t compare someone else reaching their full potential and believing you missed out because you’re still a tiny bud. You simply need more time to grow. Jealousy and envy are rooted in scarcity. These feelings manifest when you believe success, abundance, and happiness are limited and if someone else is experiencing something you’re not, then you’ll never have it. Fullness of life is available to all.


One flower is beautiful, but a dozen is exquisite. When we welcome each other’s differences and accept each person as they are and not what we expect them to be, we’ll see and appreciate the beauty in the bouquet of life. You’re not in this garden alone. Celebrate all who grow and bloom here.

Wallace Wattles said, “The very best thing you can do for the whole world is to make the most of yourself.” You growing into your most abundant self is the beauty and fragrance of life. You’re the expression of the Divine living through you. You create hope, beauty, and life in this world.

Don’t hide yourself. Bloom bigger.


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