Wondering, “is my husband cheating on me” is emotionally devastating and exhausting. It leaves you feeling anxious, crazy, and alone. You’ll find yourself becoming paranoid, needy, and desperate to figure out why your husband is acting differently. As a loving wife, it’s hard to fathom the possibility of your husband cheating on you, but it’s essential to recognize some of the signs.
Every marriage, couple and husband is different, so there are no universal sure signs, but there are clues that you can pick up on if you’re suspicious. It’s extremely uncommon for a spouse to come clean when confronted about his infidelity, but here are some signs if you’re thinking he may be.
5 Signs Your Husband May Be Cheating on You
Change in his behavior
If you notice significant changes in your husband’s behavior, it could be a sign of infidelity. He may become more distant and uninterested in your daily life, emotionally unavailable, and less affectionate. Your husband may also spend less time with you and become more secretive about his whereabouts.
If your husband suddenly develops new hobbies or interests that don’t include you and doesn’t seem interested in sharing them with you, it could be a sign that he’s emotionally checked out of your relationship. He may be seeking excitement and validation from someone else, and his new activities may be a way to spend time away from you and his family.
He becomes more protective of his phone
Your husband’s phone may be a source of information that can confirm or dispel your suspicions of infidelity. If your husband suddenly becomes more protective of his phone working to keep it out of reach from you, it could be a sign that he is hiding something. He may start taking his phone everywhere he goes, even to the bathroom, or lock it with a new password that he is not willing to share with you.
He starts dressing differently
If your husband suddenly changes his wardrobe, it could be a sign that he is trying to impress someone else. He may start wearing clothes that he would not typically wear, such as cologne, a new hairstyle, or new shoes. He may also start working out more, trying to lose weight, or buying new clothes, especially if he did not show any interest in fashion before.
He is more defensive and irritable
If your husband becomes more defensive and irritable when you try to talk to him about your concerns, it could be a sign that he is hiding something. He may get angry or defensive when you ask him about his whereabouts or his phone, or he may accuse you of being paranoid or controlling. He may also become more critical of you or try to pick fights to avoid talking about his behavior.
Your husband may acknowledge his moodiness when you bring it up and as an unexpected bomb, say he’s been unhappy for awhile and may even go as far as saying he wants to separate or a divorce, but it’s not because he’s involved with someone else. If you have not had any noticeable marital issues prior to this, it could be a sign that he is in an affair, but hoping to avoid the confrontation of you finding out.
He becomes emotional distant or uninterested in sex
Not all husbands will stop having sex with their wives if they’re having an affair, but your husband may suddenly lose interest in sex, become uninterested in physical intimacy, or struggle to perform. These all can be signs that he is cheating. He may also become more critical of your sexual performance or reject your advances, which can cause a significant strain on your relationship.
If there isn’t a change in your husband’s sexual desires, you may notice a your husband suddenly become emotionally distant. He may begin to avoid spending alone time with you or won’t engage in meaningful conversations like he used to. He may also, become more snarky, sarcastic, or demeaning during casual conversation.
Take care of yourself
Feeling like your husband may be cheating is a heart-wrenching experience that can leave you feeling confused and overwhelmed. It’s important to remember take good care of yourself. Find ways to help you feel connected with yourself and others.
Until you resolve this issue, it’s going to be painful and may get worse before it gets better. I hate that I’m not able to offer a more positive and hopeful advice.
I hope on everything that your suspicions turn out to be wrong, because I wouldn’t wish walking through betrayal on my worst enemy, but if you end up find out that your husband had an affair, I want you to know that as devastating it’ll be, you’re not alone.
Feel free to reach out to me. I want you to know you’re going to make it through this. I promise.